valentine’s day

Cluse To My Heart

[Chelsae Anne | Photography]

BLOUSE: Maje – similar/SKORT: Maje – similar here and here/BLAZER: H&M/HEELS: (c/o) Shopbop – more options here/TOTE: (c/o) Neiman Marcus/EARRINGS: (c/o) BaubleBar/WATCH: (c/o) Cluse

As women, we’re programmed to take care of others. Whether that be your significant other, a sick family member, your bestie who’s going through, like, the world’s WORST breakup, your startup, whatever – we don’t concentrate enough on ourselves. Then we do stupid things like seek validation in others for the love we don’t have.

Listen. You and I both know that deep down inside, we can’t fully love someone else until we love ourselves first. Not to be super emotional or anything but many women (including me) know what it’s like to not put “love myself” on my to-do list and instead run around like a crazy person ticking everything off that list until they ultimately crash and burn. No bueno.

Along my path to learn more about myself and work on being a better person, I discovered the importance of this. Not because Oprah told me to. Or my mom. But because I literally crashed and burned from working way too much. To the point where I knew something had to change.

I know I’ve talked about this – and continue – to talk about this SO much because it’s a topic close to my heart…

So now, I do something everyday that’s solely for me. Lately, that means taking dance classes. Or buying myself something special, like a beautiful new watch.

To you, this might look like getting a massage. Or soaking in a hot bubble bath while reading a new book. Or practice saying no. Or asking your best friend to list 10 things they love about you…

If you’re aspiring to do something big one day – chances are, you’re super busy and want to do it. I get it. Been there. Still there. Just don’t crash and burn. Especially on a day that celebrates love, Valentine’s Day! Take time for yourself. Do something extra special. Buy the watch. (Side note, I adore the one I’m wearing in today’s look! It’s from Cluse and it’s PINK!)

And above all, remember that the love you want is already inside of you. You just need to embrace it. <3

Xo, Stephanie

[Thank you Cluse for sponsoring this post!]

You Eau it To Yourself

[Chelsae Anne | Photographer]

BRALETTE, PANTIES, KIMONO, MULES: (c/o) Moda Operandi/EARRINGS: more options here

Ah, Valentine’s Day. To couples, it’s a special day dedicated to the one you love. To singles, it’s known as “Single Awareness Day,” aka S.A.D. Ridiculous, I know.

I’ve spent V-Day attached. I’ve spent it single. This year, I’m flying solo. And you know what? I’m really excited about it! Why? Because I’m dedicating the day to love. Loving myself. I’m an i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t woman who doesn’t need someone to buy me gifts on V-Day. I’ll do it myself, thanks (snap, snap) and celebrate the holiday being fabulous. Besides, you are your one true love. (Winks. Sips champagne. Smiles to self. And turns on, “All the Single Ladies” by Beyonce.)

Be it playing hooky from work (V-Day falls on a Tuesday this year) and pampering yourself with a lavish suite at Eau Palm Beach Resort & Spa or buying yourself a matching set of bra and panties from Moda Operandi, you owe Eau it to yourself to do a little extra somethin’ somethin’ alone or with your girlfriends. Carrie Bradshaw once said, “Maybe our girlfriends are really our soul mates and guys are just people to have fun with.”

Here’s how I’m celebrating:

Checking into beach front hotel room suite. #girlboss

Buying myself new lingerie. In college, I used to buy myself a new pair of panties every time it rained. (The irony. I live in Florida.) Why? Because nothing feels sexier than knowing you have a cute pair of panties on. Especially if you’re single! Doesn’t matter if you’re wearing jeans and a t-shirt or a LBD, it instantly adds sex appeal. No seriously, try it some time. Click here for more.

With a beautiful kimono. One that’s comfy enough to wear at home yet dressy enough to wear for a “sultry special occasion,” if you know what I mean.

It may be winter (up north, at least) but that doesn’t mean you can’t rock your sexiest heels alone… in lingerie. Need some furry ones? Click here.

With a box of chocolates. All to myself. No sharing required. Plus, chocolate won’t look at you with judgy eyes. #winning

To me, V-Day and champagne go together like… well, V-Day and champagne. Grab a bottle of bubbly for you or for you and your girlfriends to pop open and enjoy

I’ll also be dancing on bed to “Single Ladies” by Beyonce. What better way to let out your feelings than with some Queen Bee? Simon Cowell won’t be there.

One of my faaavorite things to do is just sit back and relax in a luxurious bubble bath. Nothing beats soaking in a hot tub for an hour or two reading a new book while sipping a glass of champagne.

After indulging in a bubble bath – I plan to treat myself to a face mask, relaxing manicure and a night out with my girlfriends.

Just because you’re single this Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you shouldn’t treat yourself. And be fabulous. Besides, you don’t have to worry about buying someone else a gift this year. So go for it. Do something fun. Trust me, it’s money well spent.

Need some inspiration? Check out some of my favorite V-Day gifts from Moda Operandi below…

The big day is right around the corner!

Xo, Stephanie